I had a conversation with a young woman who said she’s about to turn 30 and not looking forward to it…
Shit, I’m about to turn 40 and embracing every second of it. Life is all about perspective, and as a young black boy I was told about the high dropout rate at my high school, then the high murder rate for the brothers that looked like me, and then about the high likelihood that I would either be in jail or killed by the time I turned 25… Throw in some crack slanging/gang banging friends, a touch of poverty, and a heavy dose of exposure to some racist police trying to catch me slipping every step of the way… Let’s just say growing older is a gift.
I’m saying, if you don’t know how good life is then sit down with someone who’s been able to keep moving forward in spite of being exposed to a few real things along the way. Am I excited about getting older? That would be a resounding YES!!!! I truly believe every second is a blessing…
On a side note, my New Year’s Resolution was to sit down and catch up with as many of my friends and family members (new or old) as I could. I love how Social Media has kept us aware of one another, but I’m old school, and think we need to venture out of cyberspace and do some real interacting with one another. So, if I haven’t seen you in some time, let’s start making plans to cross each other’s paths in the near future… because I ain’t coming to your funeral to boohoo over missed opportunities. That just ain’t me.
How could I look at all the beauty God has blessed me with and still have the audacity to think that something is wrong with my life? I can’t.
That’s the thing with people that enjoy privilege. We have the nerve to feel sorry for ourselves and to ignore our good health, healthy kids, loving family, supportive friends, transportation, job, medical and dental insurance, the roof over our heads, God, and even the fact that we woke up and have been given another opportunity to do something amazing with our lives.
Let me just say, I’m thankful I grew up how and where I grew up. Thankful I grew up around people doing good and doing bad. Thankful I’ve been exposed to life and death, that I’ve been able to see people clawing and fighting for their piece of happiness and to be around people who’ve been given the world on a platter and still find things to complain about. I’m thankful because I understand just how preposterous it would be for me to wake up and complain about my life as I stand in the light of all that I have been blessed with.
Sometimes we just need to change the way we see things, not the things that we see.
Even if you could go in reverse
Even if you could traverse the path you have previously traveled
With each and every step backwards being in sync with every forward step you ever took
Even if you could go back to that exact place
To that exact moment
You will realize when you get back to the place you once were
Everything will be different
In essence, there is no going back
Because while you were moving backwards
The whole world was moving forward
When you return to whence you came
You will only be behind
But never in the same place
My point is, while we reminisce over the good old days, ponder over lost opportunities and bad decisions, try to hold on to the memories of our ascended loved ones or our unforgettable moments, we need to maintain a constant awareness that life is intended to be lived moving forward.
It’s good to love who you were, but wouldn’t it be so much better if you loved who you are? Make it happen!!