When I first got the news that my good friend had passed away today, it hit me like a ton of bricks… That is until I took a deep breath and remembered her for the beautiful person that she is. Then I gave thanks to God for allowing such a beautiful angel to find her way into my life.
It’s crazy how a brief encounter at a stepshow all the way back in 1995 could turn into a lifelong friendship. How influential a bright smile and a fighter’s heart could be on my perspective. How much more beautiful the world seemed after a heartfelt conversation with her, my sister. The way she lived, her always positive attitude, and her passion for doing for others was a constant reminder that I simply do not have the right to feel sorry for myself.
The kind of woman that she is was never more evident than when I spoke to her while she was waiting for a Liver transplant and the odds started to appear to be stacked against her. What did she say? She told me that no matter what that she was blessed, thankful, praying for the other patients in the hospital who she felt had it worse than her, and going to continue fighting and fighting and fighting….
No matter the circumstance her message was always consistent – Get Up!! Keep Fighting!! Keep Smiling!! Keep Loving!!
Nef, I will miss you dearly and already look forward to having our next conversation on the other side. I am thankful that you have found peace and finally found a place big enough to hold that beautiful smile of yours. Love you always, your brother… ~ Sean King
To my mother (RIP), who birthed me, raised me, taught me how to thrive in a world trying to cripple me, and who loved me tough but unconditionally; I know that you are watching over me even today. There are no words I could ever write that could do justice to who you are and what you mean to me. Happy International Women’s Day. I Love You.
To my Grandma Smith (RIP), who was there during my early childhood years, teaching, listening, walking, nurturing, and helping to lay the foundation for my current happiness before leaving this world, first mentally (Alzheimers) and then physically. Happy International Women’s Day. I Love You.
To my Grandma Lindsey (RIP), the first poet I ever knew and the most influential figure in my willingness to share my truth through poetry, prose, verbal communication, and in action. You were the one who told me “those people aren’t going to like what you have to say, but to keep saying it because it’s the truth”. I always remembered those words as people encouraged me to tone it down. Because you believed in my writing, it never mattered to me whether anyone else did. Happy International Women’s Day. I Love You.
To my Wife, Tasha King, you are the bridge that allowed me move past anger and into the realm of love. You are the first person that made me look beyond the hypocrisy of the people of the church and encouraged me to walk the Christian path without the constant condemnation and threats of hell. You are the completion of my soul, the perfect compliment to my being, the rib removed from my side and given to me as an eternal companion. You are the angel that God sent to ensure my happiness. Happy International Women’s Day. I Love You.
To every beautiful woman that I’ve ever crossed paths with. Crushes that helped me avoid alcoholic vices. Soldiers who stood by my side plotting revolution. Confidants and sisters that I could turn to in desperate times. Unselfish women who pushed me to become a better man. Patient women who challenged me to work through my prejudices and ignorance as they helped me expand my view on everything I thought I knew. Sheroes, who taught me there are no limits, no boxes, no challenges capable of stopping me from getting to that place God has chosen for me. To my friends, sisters, aunts, great-grandmothers, mother-in-laws, step-mothers, cousins, co-workers, ancestors, and every woman that has every influenced me, I thank you for everything. Happy International Women’s Day. I Love You.
To each of you, I could pour out my soul every single day and still feel like I’ve done you an injustice. Who you are and what you mean to me goes far beyond words, but I use them in hopes that future generations will come to appreciate you as much as I have. Every single one of you has made my life richer and more fulfilled. Adam gave you a rib, but I owe everything to you. Happy International Women’s Day. I Love You.
Be blessed and have a beautiful day.